A month ago, a friend of mine had a baby. I'm happily included in a cluster of folk who bring meals and coo at the fresh human. The women in that circle compare birth narratives ("...well I was in labor for twenty hours...," "...like pushing a watermelon through a straw...," "...one kid right after another, like a Pez dispenser..." and so on). And many of them — seldom in the new mother's presence, mind you — say some variation of this: "Wow, she looks good; she's lost nearly all her baby weight."
It's clear that women (yes, even in this enlightened age) value certain standards of weight loss and ideals of figure. But they dare not encourage it. They can no longer ask each other "So, when did you think you might lose those last five or six pounds?" These women are not Philistines. Many are educated "crunchy moms" who read and share articles about home delivery, organic foods, and gender empowerment. They envision and work for a world free from privilege and discrimination.